You Can control your life! There is no such thing as being a helpless victim; you are a victim only if you choose to allow yourself to be one. You always have options; you simply need to exercise them. Some common options are:
• The choice to think positively or negatively
• Letting your emotions control you or you control them
• Keeping nourishing or toxic relationships
• A nutritious or non-nutritious diet
• Setting goals or not setting goals
• Being a person of your word
• Career
• Lifestyle
• Environment
• Daily habits
• Friends
Through these choices, you create your own physical, emotional, and spiritual health and happiness.
But, what about genetics? Aren’t we all usually a victim there disease and illness that runs in the family? NO. You can, through skillful living, prevent most of these issues from materializing. You have the option to allow negative traits to hold you down or be your reason to excel.
There was a set of twins who grew up with an alcoholic father, but as adults chose two completely different paths. When asked if they drink alcohol one twin said “Of course, I’m going to be an alcoholic, my father was one”; the other twin said “Absolutely not, my father was an alcoholic, there's no way I'm gonna be one.”
Then what about unexpected accidents, such as natural disasters, car wrecks, criminal assaults, etc.? Again, most of these circumstances can be avoided by being aware of one's surroundings and being observant. Many times we ignore the red flags then get upset when bad things happen. And even if an undesirable event does occur, we have the choice of learning and growing from it, or letting it handcuff us. You CAN be the director of your life…instead of just an actor!!
Where can I start? The essential first step in gaining control of your life is accepting full responsibility for it. (If you blame outside circumstances for your situation, you thwart your own growth and give away your innate control. You actually cheat yourself.) You are responsible! Only you can make it happen!
Then what? Commit to gaining control! Make it a priority!
What steps can I take to get back control? Having control of your life is a learned skill. Like any skill, to become proficient at it requires study, discipline, and practice. The following self-care techniques develop this skill and reverse old destructive patterns.
• Choose positive thinking. Reinforce this choice with affirmations.
• Choose positive emotions. Reinforce this choice with affirmations, reading, etc.
• Look at the results and causes of negative feelings.
• Believe in your power to control your life. Sometimes you have to believe in someone else's believe in you first.
• Choose a healthful daily routine.
• Include fun in your day.
• Respect physical laws, e.g. avoid junk food, cigarettes, drugs, etc.
How do you get what you want? Most of what you get in life, you ATTRACT. You can develop your internal magnet so that you attract those goals, opportunities, people, etc. that you desire. You develop this magnet by your presence, your attitude and emotional state. If these 3 things are negative that you'll attract, if they're weak or sad you'll attract that too. Believing in yourself and what you do, being in present in each moment helps to be aware of your state of mind. See, feel, and radiate what you want and you'll be surprised at how quickly it will show up.
Are your goals in line with your true desires? Get in touch with yourself, where you’re headed, and what you want. Update your direction and goals frequently. The following questions can aid you in blending together your real self and your goals.
• What do you want to do most in your life?
• What is your most desired lifestyle?
• What are your favorite types of people?
• What are your favorite hobbies?
• What are your favorite sports?
• What are your favorite travel locations?
• What are your favorite types of books?
• What courses would you like to take?
• What experiences would you like to have?
• What skills would you like to develop?
• What relationship would you like to have?
• What needs are presently not being met?
• What are your highlight experiences of the last 5 years?
• What do you want to change right now?
Do you welcome challenges and change as opportunities for growth? They may at times be uncomfortable; growth isn’t cheap! But NO growth is much more expensive!
Come alive! Charge yourself with vitality! Use affirmations. Get a coach. Practice being in this NOW moment and feeling the energy and passion that drives the new you! Speak with conviction and stand with confidence. Have courage, take intelligent risks, stand up for yourself, and GO FOR IT! Lead yourself to happiness, creative expression, adventure, love and fulfillment! Take charge of your life!
• The choice to think positively or negatively
• Letting your emotions control you or you control them
• Keeping nourishing or toxic relationships
• A nutritious or non-nutritious diet
• Setting goals or not setting goals
• Being a person of your word
• Career
• Lifestyle
• Environment
• Daily habits
• Friends
Through these choices, you create your own physical, emotional, and spiritual health and happiness.
But, what about genetics? Aren’t we all usually a victim there disease and illness that runs in the family? NO. You can, through skillful living, prevent most of these issues from materializing. You have the option to allow negative traits to hold you down or be your reason to excel.
There was a set of twins who grew up with an alcoholic father, but as adults chose two completely different paths. When asked if they drink alcohol one twin said “Of course, I’m going to be an alcoholic, my father was one”; the other twin said “Absolutely not, my father was an alcoholic, there's no way I'm gonna be one.”
Then what about unexpected accidents, such as natural disasters, car wrecks, criminal assaults, etc.? Again, most of these circumstances can be avoided by being aware of one's surroundings and being observant. Many times we ignore the red flags then get upset when bad things happen. And even if an undesirable event does occur, we have the choice of learning and growing from it, or letting it handcuff us. You CAN be the director of your life…instead of just an actor!!
Where can I start? The essential first step in gaining control of your life is accepting full responsibility for it. (If you blame outside circumstances for your situation, you thwart your own growth and give away your innate control. You actually cheat yourself.) You are responsible! Only you can make it happen!
Then what? Commit to gaining control! Make it a priority!
What steps can I take to get back control? Having control of your life is a learned skill. Like any skill, to become proficient at it requires study, discipline, and practice. The following self-care techniques develop this skill and reverse old destructive patterns.
• Choose positive thinking. Reinforce this choice with affirmations.
• Choose positive emotions. Reinforce this choice with affirmations, reading, etc.
• Look at the results and causes of negative feelings.
• Believe in your power to control your life. Sometimes you have to believe in someone else's believe in you first.
• Choose a healthful daily routine.
• Include fun in your day.
• Respect physical laws, e.g. avoid junk food, cigarettes, drugs, etc.
How do you get what you want? Most of what you get in life, you ATTRACT. You can develop your internal magnet so that you attract those goals, opportunities, people, etc. that you desire. You develop this magnet by your presence, your attitude and emotional state. If these 3 things are negative that you'll attract, if they're weak or sad you'll attract that too. Believing in yourself and what you do, being in present in each moment helps to be aware of your state of mind. See, feel, and radiate what you want and you'll be surprised at how quickly it will show up.
Are your goals in line with your true desires? Get in touch with yourself, where you’re headed, and what you want. Update your direction and goals frequently. The following questions can aid you in blending together your real self and your goals.
• What do you want to do most in your life?
• What is your most desired lifestyle?
• What are your favorite types of people?
• What are your favorite hobbies?
• What are your favorite sports?
• What are your favorite travel locations?
• What are your favorite types of books?
• What courses would you like to take?
• What experiences would you like to have?
• What skills would you like to develop?
• What relationship would you like to have?
• What needs are presently not being met?
• What are your highlight experiences of the last 5 years?
• What do you want to change right now?
Do you welcome challenges and change as opportunities for growth? They may at times be uncomfortable; growth isn’t cheap! But NO growth is much more expensive!
Come alive! Charge yourself with vitality! Use affirmations. Get a coach. Practice being in this NOW moment and feeling the energy and passion that drives the new you! Speak with conviction and stand with confidence. Have courage, take intelligent risks, stand up for yourself, and GO FOR IT! Lead yourself to happiness, creative expression, adventure, love and fulfillment! Take charge of your life!
